'Yinka Dixon

BECKY magazine is launched by Senator Mark Dearey

2010-11-09T01:32:00.000Z

BECKY, the latest magazine to hit the streets in Ireland, was launched on 29th October 2010, by Senator Mark Dearey.

Mark informed the audience about aspects of the magazine which he had read, and applauded the efforts of Yinka Dixon-Oludaiye, the publisher of BECKY, who then thanked those who came to witness the launch. The Senator said he is happy at the amount of work that had gone into producing and publishing the magazine, because the quality was outstanding, and he was proud to be the one to launch it.

He referred to articles he had read in the magazine, mentioning a few, like “Do you find it hard to say no?”, “10 things you can do if you lose your job”, “It is easier to build kids than to repair adults”, and commented that, in his opinion, and given the situations we may find ourselves in, these articles give great insights and offer useful suggestions. He also referred to BECKY’s Exclusive interview with the Irish State Minister for Equality. Minister Mary White is passionate about revisiting a 30 year old Irish law which does not promote the child access rights of single and separated fathers, and she is looking forward to the debate that takes care of the rights of men/fathers who are single or separated. Senator Mark then commented that BECKY, although focused on the “women’s view” has several issues in it, which affect and should interest the men folk, and also at the fact that the magazine has managed to created a balance in appeal for people of all cultures.

The launch took place as part of the Stories and Songs weekend, organised by CAMfest, a project that showcases upcoming talented artists, and supported by Cooperation Ireland. As part of the Stories and Songs project, Senator Dearey himself, broke into a rendition of some old Irish folk songs, which ended in a standing ovation for the Dundalk (County Louth) based Senator. On the whole, a wonderful fun-filled evening.

The Feelings of Grief in Divorce

2010-09-23T18:36:00.005+01:00

Many people remain in dead marriages using the children as excuse for a disjointed relationship in which the battle lines are drawn fiercely and ferociously. To say the least, it is unfair on the children for parents to bring them up in war zones, or to use them as pawns during bitter long drawn out exchanges of verbal and, sometimes physical fire power. Once the love for the children becomes the priority, sometimes, divorce becomes inevitable. The realization of this ushers in a lot of grief.

When asked to describe what people feel when going through the process of divorce, some would call it a “deep sadness”, while some call it a “heavy sorrow”. Whichever way it is described, grief is unbearable, monumental, devastating, and a sometimes wearying process. Grief is usually caused by a loss of some sort, (usually of someone loved), especially in the case of divorce, relationship break-up, or death. Sometimes, grief may be caused by loss of a home or job, or something less severe, like position or community respect. And grief is sometimes so overwhelmingly unbearable that some people consider suicide. Grief cannot be avoided in divorce, as the two major parties to the relationship systematically tear apart what they have built over several years. They tear at each other, and at what once was a loving, close, bonded, intimate and significant relationship. Divorce may signify the death of a relationship, but the actual relationship is never really dead, especially when children are involved.

People grieving their dead have some sort of “closure” because of the funeral services. Funerals provide a mechanism for the bereaved to understand the permanent or terminal end of the relationship. Unfortunately, there are no funeral services for divorce, making the grieving process a prolonged and complicated process, and even though the relationship is ended, it is still, usually kept alight in some sort of crippled manner. Although divorce is not as final as a funeral, there is a big difference between separation and divorce. A separation may last 10 years and the marriage may even be “dead” 15 or 20 years, as they say, “It ain’t over until it’s over”. So, the day that is set for divorce does one significant thing in the lives of both parties, it sets in motion the process where one can put their lives back in order.

The day of divorce allows some basic questions to be answered. One learns what financial settlement (if any), will be granted, and as a result, one can determine what kind of housing one can afford, who will get primary custody of the children, and what visitation arrangement can be put in place. Not many people leave court feeling that their solicitor did a good job, but once the judgement has been made, the marriage is legally terminated, and there appears a more recognizable future for both parties. Some of the madness stops, and things become more certain and get under slightly better control. This is the day that sets in stone, the legal status of the marriage, even if there are several ongoing battles that continue into months, or even years. People have different ways of dealing with different issues, and not everyone will grieve in the same way. Everyone’s style is unique based on strength of personality, self esteem, personal insight, support form friends and family, spiritual inclination etc.

However, even though everyone has a different style and the individual grieving process is unique, there is still a predictable cycle of feelings, which will eventually end. The pattern of cycle of grief begins with Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and ends in a new wholesomeness. So, even if right now, you are riding on the worst or most bizarre emotional roller coaster you can ever imagine, be sure to know that one day you will be normal again. No storm lasts forever. This too, shall pass. The feelings you experience may not be “contained”, or logical, or predictable. Sometimes you may feel hopeless, helpless, sad, or lonely. At other times your feelings will be hatred, deep anger, bitterness or even, vindictiveness. In the daytime, you may feel fear or even terror, and then at night feel calm and normal again. Your feelings will be on very high roller coaster, fluctuating greatly even to very low levels. However, because grief follows a definite progressive pattern and no stage lasts forever, understanding the pattern is likely to provide you with some degree of hope.

Your Attitude and Mindset Can Help You Stay Younger

2010-07-27T22:31:00.000+01:00

Your Attitude and Mindset Can Help You Stay Younger
by Yinka Dixon

Many of us may have heard other people saying, “Attitude is everything”. The story has been told many times of those who see their glass as “half full” where others may see theirs as “half empty”. You are who you say you are. I once heard a joke of a man who needed time off work. Realising that his boss would give him no more time, he decided to hang himself upside down from the ceiling in his office, by pretending to be a light-bulb. He reasoned that if the boss asked why he did this and hears his answer, the boss would immediately "know" that he wasn't feeling well, and send him home for a few days...His boss came in, found him so, and requested an explanation. The man said “Can’t you guess I am the light bulb?” The boss, seeing this as an unusual action, felt the man mus t be stressed to the point of sickness, and could benefit from some rest, and so he sent the worker home. Our man’s colleague who had been watching the drama, promptly packed his bags also and was about to leave. When the boss asked where he thought he was going, he said “Now that the light bulb is gone, there’s no way I am working in the dark”… That may be a joke, but the reality is this, we all need to learn to take ourselves less seriously.

Your attitude is a state of mind. It is the way we perceive things. Our attitude is what differentiates us from others in this life. It represents your likes and dislikes. Attitudes can be either, positive, negative or neutral perceptions of things or ideas. An attitude can be formed as different forms of judgments that may be true or untrue.

As people grow up, and seeing different things around them, they form various attitudes based on what they see. What they see can affect their perception of a certain person, idea or thing. Attitudes are part of a person’s personality and the well being of that person. Attitude is responsible for projecting a personality, be it positive or negative. Your personality can be a significant factor in determining your state of mind, and your being and it contributes to the aging process.

Your attitude can also be defined as a form of an egotistical state of mind, regardless of whether it’s about acceptance, expression of control or other traits that are considered to be selfish in nature. If you are continuously angry, fighting and/or feel a hatred towards others, that can be described as having a negative attitude. These forms can affect how you think and act towards others. When you start having negative thoughts, you open yourself up to premature aging and possible health issues. It’s absolutely important that you move away from having a constant, negative mindset.

Transformation of this nature does take time, since these negative thoughts were not developed overnight. You really have to work hard to and put every effort into changing your attitude and your outlook about things. If in the past, there were so many things that bothered, you must release them and move forward. Being bitter will not help you; neither will unforgiveness. This will only accelerate the aging process and could affect your health, physically and mentally.

It’s by far easier and much healthier to look at the bright side of life, and of things. Doing this will refresh your mind and your body. If something happens, ask yourself “what can I do about it?” If there is something you can do, go and do it. If there is nothing you can do, worrying about it will not help. Don’t let things that are out of your control get you down. Many times, many things will be out of your control. Don’t be mean to people because they are mean to you. Being nice will help to maintain a positive attitude, no matter what the situation is. Besides, it is in your own interest to stay positive, look on the bright side, so you can look and stay younger for much longer.

Motherhood! What a glorious career!

2010-06-22T18:26:00.000+01:00

I was sent this email by one hard-working beautiful mother, wife and entrepreneur. It's a "feel-good" story, and I feel every woman (mother or not), needs to read it. If it blesses you, share it. If you have other stories and would like them published, do share them.

A woman, renewing her driver's license at the Motor Registration office, was asked by the counter clerk to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

"What I mean is," explained the counter clerk, "do you have a job or are you just a ...?"
"Of course I have a job," snapped the woman. "I'm a Mum."
"We don't list 'Mum' as an occupation, 'housewife' covers it," said the clerk emphatically.

The writer of this story forgot all about this story "until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Medicare office".

The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."

"What is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out...
"I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and looked up as though she had not heard right.
I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply,
"I have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't), in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it).

But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous "new" career, I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby) in the child development program, testing out a new vocal pattern.

I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!

And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another Mum." (And clerks DO look down on you when you are a "Mother" or "Housewife" (as if you do "Nothing" all day, just because nobody cares to pay you for what you do...

Motherhood! What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the door.
Does this make grandmothers "Senior Research Associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations", And great grandmothers "Executive Senior Research Associates?"

I think so!!! I also think it makes Aunts are "Associate Research Assistants."

Please send this to another Mum, Grandmother, Aunt, And other friends you know.

May your troubles be less, and Your blessings be more, And may nothing but happiness come through your door!

Many Women Just Do Not Understand Men.

2010-06-05T02:27:00.001+01:00

I have always concluded that it is the woman that chooses the man. Well, believe it or not, it is. A man and a woman enter into the same space. In less than a few seconds, the woman decides she wants/likes the man or not. And while the man is “faffing” around, making shy, (sometimes, silly-looking), uncertain and coy movements, the woman has decided either to make things easy for him, or to make it hard. In that process, sometimes, she gives him the wrong signal, and he might be made to pay dearly for it. However, if he gets the correct signal, and wins, she watches as he does most of the work of wooing her, while she playfully enjoys it. This whole process is great, until the relationship problems begin, and the woman begins to loose control of her man. Challenges in relationships do not discriminate when it comes to religion, age or nationality. As a Relationship Counsellor, I know too well, that the same challenges face every woman, regardless of beauty, or the lack of it.

There are many reasons why women have relationship challenges, but it appears that the main reason is because women simply just do not understand men. If a woman really understood her man, she'd know how to effortlessly fit into his life, and make the things around him fit into the things around her. The major problem for a woman in a relationship crisis, or in the effort to understand her man, is who to turn to for advice. Many women usually turn to all the wrong things for information and advice. Many seek advice from their friends (some of whom are struggling with their own relationships too), and/or they rely on relationship advice from women's magazines (some of these are written by people who have never entered relationships themselves). While it is not wrong to read magazines and find similar situations, it is important to remember that everyone is different and every situation will also be different, so consulting a relationship counselor might work best.

It is perfectly OK to seek the listening ear of a friend if the aim is to simply “offload” your issues, especially if by talking to a friend you would feel much better. However, you need to remember that talking to your friends will likely result in a closer, deeper, and much better friendship with your friend, and not with your partner. It does precious little to improve your relationships with your man. So what is the answer? The answer is to understand what your man wants. However, what men say they want, and how they act - are often two very different things!

Most women simply do not know how to make a man feel good. Believe it or not, the majority of women have the mistaken notion of that learning a few sexual tricks and bedroom stunts from Cosmo and the Kama Sutra, or that by cooking him sumptuous meals "better than his Mama ever made" should do the trick, and that this will make their man devoted to them forever. Unfortunately, that notion is such an outdated mode of thinking derived from the fable which says "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" -- or his crotch, in most instances. If that were so, then obviously, sex therapists, prostitutes and professional chefs should have the best marriages, shouldn't they? I know men who have left great cooks for women who live inside Take-Away boxes. It appears therefore that there is a lot more to making a man feel good than good food and great sex.

I recently learnt a big secret. The man a woman chooses actually wants to be enraptured by the woman, and like a little child, he wants to be the absolute centre of attention. He may not openly admit it, but men like their head rubbed like a little child. He wants to be lured, and cuddled, finessed, “bewitched” (enchanted or possessed) and (if you like) seduced by his woman. And, no, he does not mind surrendering to her every manoeuvring (as if he didn’t notice), nor does he mind being rendered powerless by her. Many a man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good, and then he will marry her. Beautiful looks, sex appeal, money, power, or prestige do not rate as high as the ability to make your man feel good about himself, and all it takes is a little regular practice.

Every man wants to be a “hero” to some woman. What you do and how you do it; the things you say, and how you say it, can touch your man’s heart, and make him feel so safe around you such that he will allow you to influence his thinking with little resistance. A wise woman would make him think that the idea was his from the start. Every woman in a relationship or contemplating a relationship with a man need to know what her man wants, especially so that you can get from him everything your heart desires. You must learn how to spiritually and naturally connect with your man. If you're a married woman, you should learn how to sustain or reignite the spark in your marriage, make your husband fall in love with you all over again, enjoy deeper intimacy with him, and have an enduring marriage.

Hey, you can actually be your imperfect self, and still be loved by your man. You can develop the courage to remove your masks, be truly happy around him and be loved in spite of your imperfections. Leave your past behind, live victoriously in your present and build the foundation to enjoy your future. Get rid of all those “layers’ that keep your man from knowing and loving you. Develop the ability to easily diffuse quarrels, arguments, and other relationship troubles as they occur, and be able to effortlessly influence your man to your way of thinking. Stop spending your time trying to figure him out or reading him like a book. Learn to completely understand your man, and use that understanding to create the relationship you desire.

How Much Sex Is Too Much Sex?

2010-03-18T01:05:00.000Z

How Much Sex Is Too Much Sex?

This question came up many years ago during a conversation about marital sex. A couple in relationship stress were with friends, when the man suddenly said “I like sex more than my wife”. All eyes stayed with him a few moments, and then, as if choreographed, all together turned to the wife. She meekly said “I can’t satisfy my husband, because he likes too much sex”. Again, as if rehearsed, all eyes looked to the floor for another few moments, before, one by one, gently, carefully, coming back up. No-one could look at either of them. No-one wanted to be accused of taking sides.

Who has been schooled enough in the area of handling marital relationships? Those with professional counselling skills know that this is the make or break point in most relationships, and needs to be handled with absolute caution. Many relationships are sick and on the verge of collapse because the protagonists in the marriage cannot speak about the real issues. Instead, counsellors are lumbered with hours of accusations that almost bother on witch-hunts, such as “he didn’t take out the bin three times in a row”; “she burnt my favourite food”. The list is endless. The real issue started hours ago, in the bedroom. Many people were brought up in a way that does not encourage talking about these issues. They get married because they claim to love each other, and proclaim their love for one another before many witnesses.

On the other hand, some people feel that they should live together first before determining if they are “right” for one another. Common Law arrangements have all the stress and problems of real marriages, without all the benefits. I always ask myself why anyone would want to go for a “Test Marriage”, especially the women. People have been conned, for too long, that marriage has no benefits, until you try it out first. So, what if you try it out, and you don’t like it? Does that erase the years you spent together as ordinary “partners”? That’s another word I like very much “partnerships” because of the business profitability angle. Do “test marriages work like “business partnerships”? A sort of “You bring, I bring: We share the profits”, kind of arrangement? If so, where is the “test” in that? After all the bible says there is “that, which every joint supplies” referring to the anatomy of the human being. Take the right arm for instance. Joined at the shoulder with the rest of the body, and at the elbow to the forearm, it is joined at the wrist to the hand, which normally has five fingers.

A business partnership assumes that each partner is good at “something”, and supplies “some degree of value” to the relationship, like our right arm. Now, imagine if the elbow says to the upper arm, “I really like you very much, but let’s just stay together for now and see if our relationship will work”. If it doesn’t work five years later, I will drop off, and you can go your own way.” Now, that would be something, wouldn’t it? Otherwise, imagine going into a brand new car showroom, and asking for a “test drive”. Five years later, three children and many photographs down the road, you abandon the car on the road, and tell the dealer, “sorry, here are your keys. We are just not compatible. That car has given me too much problems”; “he is always attracting too many women”; “she doesn’t like my mother”. Ah! Get with the program, please. Make up your mind. If a woman is good enough to have your children, she is good enough to marry.

OK, that was a diversion. How much sex is too much sex? Our couple were waiting for a response from all the wise men and women in the room. Suddenly, in about the same time it took you to read the above, the most elderly of the men in the room asked the question. “How much sex is too much sex”? Directed at no-one in particular, I guess the question hit everyone like a bombshell, because I saw every eye go back to the floor, and for a good while, no-one attempted to look up. Suddenly, the woman ventured a weak reply. “Well”, she said slowly, and brought all eyes back up. “I guess there is really nothing like “too much sex” if you are allowed to enjoy the process.” Again, all eyes went to the ground. There must be something on that carpet that attracts so much attention!

Many women are forgiving in other areas of a relationship, but when hurt during sexual encounters, they go for broke. Majority won’t say what is really biting them, because there is still that compelling need to protect the man’s ego. A wise man in a relationship needs to work more on the area of marital sex. This is not about using Viagra for dexterity. There is a certain gentility and finesse that conjures a loving attitude, which, if learned by both sexes, has the capacity to reduce the tensions in relationships. Sex education has been prominently omitted from the learning experiences of people, creating the majority of stress related and mental health symptoms we have in the world today. Every relationship is unique, because the people involved are unique. If you are sexually related to someone and are hoping for a lasting relationship, then you need to find out, how much sex is too much sex?

autumn, winter, spring, summer - the new dawn

2009-12-31T02:10:00.009Z

autumn, winter, spring, summer - the new dawn

Here's for all who stood by me in autumn.
things looked so bad, they didn't know how much...
Here's for all those who got me through winter,
hungry and lonely, they brought a gift in love...
It's for all those who came in spring
who saw a flicker, and held on to hope...

Many of these made me laugh,
looking into my court, and seeing beauty...
some came, and made me cry,
they saw withered grass, and helpless little me...
Others couldn't give a hoot,
Strolling by, a shrug, a wince, and a "what-could-i-do?"

The night's over, the dawn breaks..
This is it, folks. this is really it!
But not to die.
Winter's over, Spring is here.
This season of hope, and radiance
brings with it summer, sunshine and song!!!

Wishing you all
a happy new year...

© Yinka Dixon-Oludaiye, 31 December 2009 (2:02 GMT)
© All rights reserved. copyright intentional.
Please use freely, but do acknowledge.

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2009-12-12T02:35:00.001Z

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Press Release: Green Party select Yinka Dixon for Drogheda South

2009-04-03T03:39:00.001+01:00

Green Party select Yinka Dixon for Drogheda South

The Green party has selected Ms Yinka Dixon to represent them towards a better community development in Drogheda Borough Council in the coming Local Elections. The Party’s Electoral Executive Committee has recently approved and ratified Ms Dixon's nomination. Ms Dixon will represent the party in Drogheda South on 5 June as running mate to Michael McKeon for an effective multicultural integration.

Yinka Dixon has been involved with grassroots community development and adult literacy for several years. She has worked to support sports and facilites for children and their parents, as well as towards integration and interculturalism to promote peace and unity within the community. Yinka is originally from Nigeria and has lived in Drogheda, and in County Louth for a number of years.

Yinka, is a Lecturer/Trainer for City of Dublin VEC, registered to teach in all 32 colleges, Prisons and Youth Reach Centres. She works as a Speaker, and Life and Business Coach. Yinka has played a leading role in multi-cultural integration, and has developed schemes to foster peace and unity along racial, religious, gender and age boundaries. She is the Founder of Christian Friends, Coordinator of the Ebony People's Support Group, Founder of the Network of International Christian Artists and Musicians, and the Coodinator of CAMfest, a peace project to promote young performing artists in Ireland and beyond. Yinka is a Researcher and Presenter for community radio and regularly writes articles for magazines and ezines.

Ms Dixon said: “I was pleased to have been nominated and ratified as a Green Party Local Election candidate. I am happy that the party has been in the forefront of community and global issues for a long time, and have now been proved right. Barack Obama said “the way we use energy has strengthened our enemies and destroyed our planet”. The Green Party has been saying this for years. Additionally, the party's core belief is at the heart of community development, social responsibility justice. I joined them to contribute to the much needed change blowing across our island today.

“My focus is Community Development, Education, Sports and Jobs or Enterprise. It is important that we focus on the needs of our communities. My aim is to support voluntary organisations to develop better, healthier and safer communities. These groups have struggled to support the people in communities with little help from government. I aim to help raise community relevance, promote community involvement, and influence community thinking. I believe that my experience over the years will now be more useful, not just to the party, but also to my community.

Press Release ENDS...

Ms Yinka Dixon: Local Representative (Green Party)
Independent Consultant, Trainer, Speaker & Coach
Business Communications and Life Skills Strategist
The Holy Family Community Centre, Ballsgrove, Drogheda.
Tel: 087-2372365 www.yinkadixon.vpweb.ie
Email: yinkadixon@hotmail.com

Your Vote Is Your Voice - Are You Registered?

2009-03-28T02:37:00.003Z

I have been speaking with several people during my campaign for elections, and realised that there are so many people who are not registered to vote, and several more don't care.

Louth Greens are reminding voters to check the Register of Electors to make sure they are eligible to vote in 2009. Cllr Mark Dearey explained "This is especially important if you have had problems in the past or have moved house but it is also a habit that you should get into during this time every year to make sure that you are correctly registered. Checking the register is very simple. There are a number of options available including the ereg service on the Louth County Council website at http://www.louthcoco.ie/ereg/

Rachel Pearson of the Louth Green Party explained "You can also check whether you are registered on line by visiting www.checktheregister.ie. Select your county, enter your name and the first line of your address and check if you listed on the register. If you are then you don't need to do anything.

If your details do not appear and are not included at another address you must complete an application form (RFA2) for inclusion in the supplement to the 2009/2010 Register. If you are on the register but have moved address from one Dáil constituency, or local electoral area, to another you must complete an application form (RFA3). Irish versions of these forms are also available for download – (RFA2) or (RFA3).

Completed forms should be returned directly by you to your city or county council and must reach the relevant council before the fourteenth day (Sundays, public holidays and Good Friday excluded) before polling day in order to be considered for inclusion in the supplement for a forthcoming election or referendum.

The final register is published on 1st February and comes into force for a year on 15th February. (from www.checktheregister.ie)

The address for Louth residents is;

Corporate Services,
Louth County Council,
Millennium Hall,
Alphonsus Road,
Dundalk,
Co. Louth.
If you have any questions you can contact Louth County Council on 042 9335457."

If you don't register to vote, you cannot vote. And if you don't vote, you have lost one of your basic rights - Your Right To Vote! And without your vote, your choice of a leader will not be taken into consideration. And if your voice is not heard, someone you did not elect will represent you, and make choices you do not necessarily like. All you can do then, is exercise your right to complain... (A bit like medicine after death, if you ask me).

To make good use of your vote, register to vote TODAY!!!

You can also ask me how by calling 087 237 2365
Or by email yinkadixon@hotmail.com

Yinka Dixon - Local Election Candidate, Drogheda South, Ireland

2009-03-21T17:29:00.005Z

My name is Yinka Dixon.

Many people already know me.
I am one of the Local Election Candidates in Drogheda, south of River Boyne.
I am Representing the Green Party in the areas from the River on the McDonalds, Train Station, River Bank, Scotch Hall, Dublin Road etc side of Drogheda, Ireland.

I am asking that you come out and VOTE FOR ME, .
If you would like to know why I am running for local elections,

please attend tonight's Get Together at
Church of Ireland (Anglican) Hall,
Peter's Street, Drogheda

Time: 7pm for 7:30pm start to 9:30pm for 10pm close (sharp)

This event is to launch and fundraise my campaign.
Looking forwards to seeing you there...

PLEASE, come with your useful suggestions for a better, healthier, safer community!
IF you cant attend, please, register to join the
GREEN PARTY

IF you are NOT registered to VOTE, you cannot vote!!
PLEASE, meet CALL or email me, I HAVE VOTER'S FORMS.
And if I dont have, I will get you one!!!
The Gardai must sign your form now... ITS NOT TOO LATE..

VOTE YINKA DIXON!!!

(Yinka Dixon-Number 1 vote, and Michael McKeon number 2)
OR just vote ANY GREEN PARTY CANDIDATE, ANYWHERE YOU LIVE.....

I Thank you

yinkadixon

+353872372365
yinkadixon@hotmail.com

www.yinkadixon.vpweb.ie
www.greenparty.ie

Yinka Dixon - Local Election Candidate, Drogheda SOUTH

2009-03-21T17:22:00.000Z

People Who Have Inspired Me – Mrs Olubunmi Salako

2009-03-04T13:15:00.003Z

I first learnt about Olubunmi Salako from a journalist in 2003. My opinion of her was coloured from then, although I had not met her. I have lived in Ireland since 1999, and have visited almost all counties, and lived in a good few. It was not until 2005 that fate drove me to live in Dundalk, County Louth. I have a simple rule for living in communities, and it is this. People in your community must identify at least one good thing about you, if you live there for more than six months. When I arrived in Dundalk, I started planning community events, and needed to know who is who in the community. I asked my very good friend, Pastor Isaac Adewola, who had informed me that Dundalk is a good place to live, and bring up a teenage son. He pointed out a number of people and gave excellent reports about them. Olubunmi Salako was one of them.

I remember asking for an appointment to visit her in her own time, as I did a number of other people. She was very amiable, and friendly. She spoke her mind, frankly, about several issues that I placed on the table, and offered assistance “in whatever way” she can. She went further to mention names of other women that we could coopt who would join us to support the community. She even went in her car with me to meet Assi Smith, another fantastic Community Leader in Dundalk, and one or two other wonderful people. I soon realised that Bunmi is passionate about teaching. To her, it is not just a profession or career. It is her life. This woman breathes, eats and sleeps to teach! She is a lifetime teacher, and having been an assistant Principal, in Nigeria, she readily embraces the teaching role, at every opportunity. As a matter of fact, Bunmi takes every opportunity available to her, to teach a thing or two. If you want to prove it, just give her a microphone, or ask a question or for an input, and give her the opportunity to answer.

There is never a dull moment with this woman. I realise also that she is actually a bit of an introvert. She is never short of words, but never delibrately pushing herself forwards, and neither will she shy away if, or when, she finds herself in front. Leadership comes naturally to Olubunmi Salako, and she uses every opportunity she gets to inspire and to motivate. I have spent time in her home with her beautiful family, and love her very creative and especially well behaved children. In her home, I got a completely different perspective if this energetic, ever ready, ever focused woman, who jumps at the drop of a hat, to aid and support anyone in distress. Bunmi is an active politician, and will never give an answer out of sync. You won't ever catch her giving a “wrong” answer. Olubunmi Salako is a teacher, an inspirational motivator and a politician. A uniquely wonderfully deadly combination. My first impressions of this woman had changed for good. I began to realise that Bunmi is by far capable of much more than even she even gives herself credit for. I mentioned this to her. She opened up and told me her concerns, and some of her personal challenges. I also realised that, Bunmi, like everyone else, is just a normal human being, open and sometimes, vulnerable, and like every mother, she does her very best to protect and nurture her children. There are no myths about this wonderful lady who always seeks to go one extra mile, but sometimes, misunderstood.

Bunmi Salako inspires me in more ways than one. She is a staunch supporter of anyone with positive views and positive actions. She provides the necessary information and required guidance if solicited, or once she can form a personal relationship. She is a mentor per excellence. As I watch the energy she puts into coaching, inspiring, exhorting, counselling, encouraging and motivating others, I am encouraged to continue giving more of myself, turning the deaf ear to aimless and senseless critisicm. Bunmi is very focused and constantly appraising and re-appraising her herself. Bunmi will always advice you to regard distractions by people who aim to hurt you as if they were “noises in the market” You must always face the seller at the stall you are in, forget the noises of distractions. Though never afraid of a fight, Olubunmi would rather bite her tongue than make a hurtful statement, even when she is herself hurt. If you need an opinion on any issue, she will lay out facts and figures at the tip of her tongue, or ask for time to prepare, before unleashing actual details, complete with examples and citations. A strong ally, there is nothing that phazes this woman. No mountain is too high and no valley is too deep, if it has been climbed or walked, Bunmi will go there. If, by any chance, it has not been discovered, be sure, Bunmi will be one of the first to do so. I feel quite honoured to have discovered the truth, first hand. The major lesson I learnt from getting close to Bunmi is that other people's opinions of us are not always right

Where will you be you on 20th January 2009?

2009-02-09T03:44:00.002Z

Where will you be you on 20th January 2009?

20th January 2009. Dateline Washington DC, USA. Barack Hussein Obama II, the mixed race son of an American single mother became the 44th American President. Because of the resolve of the young people of this generation, wholesale change came to America, and to the world!! Yes, We Can!

Having left it too late to visit America for the live event, I reduced all my appointments for the day to ensure that I was able to watch the event live. However, I dared to ask my friends and clients before the event “Where will you be at that precise time, on that historical day, at that defining moment? Where will you be as history is made in this world, before our very eyes at 5pm (GMT, UK time, and 12:00 EST)?”

The uniqueness of this event begins at the foundation of Barack Obama's life. Barack Obama, the loving son of a very protective white American mother and a black African father. A unique man, 50 percent white and 50 percent black, whose parents broke up when he was just a 2 year old child. Who had reponsibility thrust upon him at an age so tender and so precarious, that any number of things could have gone wrong. A child who struggled with days of anxiety, and nights of unanswered questions. A mixed race child who watched his white mother try to regain her life, her dignity, her joy. Do you see her?

Ann Dunham, British, Irish, American, who dared to marry an African in the 60's. Ann was an anthrological field worker in Indonesia, who died of ovarian cancer in Hawaii in 1995. On a day like today, this January 2009, we must remember Ann Dunham, the African woman by marriage, the British Ann Dunham, the Irish Ann Dunham, the American Ann Dunham, the mixed nationality single mother of the soon-to-be 44th President of the United States of America. The woman who laboured, but could not stay to reap the fruits. Do you see her? Ann Dunham? She is every single mother from every single country. She is every mother who stays awake at night, night after night, to care for her child, to wipe the sweat from his forehead, to say a prayer for her on the way from the school run... She is the mother with holes in her shoes and pennies in her pocket, hoping for a decent meal to fill her growing child. Even Old Mother Hubbard could not have done any better, on a day like today... Do you see her?

Ann Dunham. A woman, like me, who struggled to make a way for her beloved Barack. The son she carried in her body for 9 months, like every other woman, for the African man she must have loved. A white mother, amongst her own people, who perhaps, was neglected and foresaken for her choice of a mate. An ordinary woman like me, on her own, as she struggled to feed her child, to keep him warm at night, to protect him from the harsh conditions that every child goes through, to shield him from bullies, to educate him about negative affiliation with peers, to boost his morale and his self confidence. To nuture and to encourage him to grow through a wholesome life, telling him, he is the best, and that all will be ok, in the end. A single mother, who struggled to be understood, to be loved again, to make something of her life and of her son's. A mother who tried her best. And then she died. Do you see her?

A day like today, Barack Obama has proved that it is not the colour of your skin, the meaning of your name, or the country you grew up in, that will make you or break you. What will make you, and make you stand out, are the beliefs you hold, the goals you set, choices you make, the determination, the resolve, the action. What will make for change, is the attitude we take and we maintain, the things we profess, where we draw the lines, and what people will remember us by. The journey to change does not stop with electing an American President. The journey towards change must be born in us, individaully, and collectively... Yes, We Can!

Will you participate in the euphoria of the success that can be achieved as we watch this self confident mixed race son of that mixed nationality single mother? A story so complex, so interesting, so encouraging. The story that has brought “Change” to America, and to the world. Change is not a figment of someone's imagination. Change demands and commands a “newness” in spirit, a re-allignment of focus, a re-education, re-generation, and re-juvenation. A resolve for change must be driven by the people. It must begin with the people. A resolve for change must begin with me, with you. We can no longer stand by and do nothing, while evil prevails, as we watch, speechless. For our lives, for our children, and our children's children. Posterity will ask us “what did you do, when you had the chance?” We must stand up for the truth, for fair play, for justice. To achieve the change we want, and so badly deserve, we must individually and collectively start the process of Change. Yes, We Can!

But “What can I do?” I hear you ask. You must speak up against injustice, against corruption, against mal-practices, against mediocre services, at every opportunity. You must actively look for opportunities to make your voice heard. Speak up against things that are wrong. Don't practice them yourself, and don't condone them. Don't engage in violent protests, that will not bring about the desired or deserved change. Mathma Ghandi, (the Indian Philosopher, internationally esteemed for his doctrine of nonviolent protests ) - the man who said “We must be the change we want to see in the world”, also said “You may never know what results come from of your action, but if you do nothing, there will be no result”. Barack Obama stood tall, and told the America peoples, “we will no longer do politics like it was done in the past, we will not continue to embrace and to applaud the system that brought us thus far, we must press beyond the ordinary, and reach for higher goals..” (paraphrase, mine). Yes, We Can!

Will you be there to watch history unfold? Where will you be, I dare to ask you, On a day like today? Mahatma Gandhi said “In a gentle way you can shake the world.”. My friends “Yes, We Can!”

Here Are Five ways To Be Rich

2008-07-11T13:40:00.000+01:00

Here are five ways to be rich:

Be born in a rich family
Marry a Rich person
Win the Lotto
Wait for your rich uncle to die
Earn it yourself

By now, you would probably know if you were born into a rich family or not. If you were not born into a rich family, I am guessing that it's already too late for that great scenario to happen in your life. But, don't despair if your parents were not rich because you happen to be in the majority of people in this world, in this regard. The majority of people everywhere in the world today, were not born into rich families. In fact, there are more poor people than rich ones. According to statistics carried out in America and various parts of the world, approximately 2% of people set the trend that other people follow.

This directly interprets to the fact that the remaining 98% are just "followers". These kind of people, by Nigerian standards are called "follow follow". Rich people do not follow the trend. they are those who have discovered winning ways. Of course it's by far easier if you were born into "Royalty". If you're not born as an "HRH" (His/Her Royal Highness) but your parents happen to have followed Bill Gates into the limelight of fame and fortune, then you're very fortunate indeed. In that case, you will have one or two "silver spoons" sticking out of your mouth at birth, and you will have the photographs to prove it. Now, if you are not related to Oprah Winfrey, Bill Clinton, Richard Branson, Queen Victoria, Prince Charles and all world-standard richies, then, maybe you were not born into a rich family. (Anyway, you can't be, because those people already know how many children they have!)

Does this then mean you have no hope of becoming rich? No and Yes. This is because in today's world, becoming rich is a matter of personal choice. These days, anyone can be rich if they so choose. Hey, wait a minute! I didn't say you are allowed to rob the bank, or dupe others. But, I'm sure you're wondering why I said this. All the people I mentioned above, including my mentors, Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn, as well as others too numerous to number, all started life with stories of small beginnings. So, there must be other ways to be rich.

Marry a Rich Person. If you're married, by now, you should know if your spouse is rich or not. Afterall, most people who are rich like to "pose" or flaunt their wealth. In fact, it is impossible to be rich without attracting the attention of the World Bank. You see, the world became a global village long ago. Is it possible for your spouse to be rich and you wouldn't know it? I doubt that very much. As a matter of fact, even men these days are fishing for rich women to marry. So the whole game has changed completely. it's now a different ball game entirely. If as a woman, you're still looking for the proverbial "rich man", you might be waiting too long. By the time you realise it, the hormonal clock has overshot its dials... And even a lot of grey-haired men (sugar daddys) are looking for bright eyed and bushy-tailed young girls, straight out of their mother's wombs. So unless you are rich, you have lost out already. Truth is, male or female, most rich people are already spoken for, and the ones that are not, already have their eyes on someone else (which is not likely to be you, unless you are also rich!) But, if you find one rich man or woman who is free, let me know, and I will be there first. But there are other ways to be rich.

Win the Lotto. Your next option is to win the lotto. That is, assuming you are one of those who play it. Consider how many millions of people play the lotto each week. That is those who are willing to spend their money, no matter how small, religiously every once or twice every week!!! You probably want to ask yourself what number or percentage of these people you may be, out of all the millions of people who put their money. To some people, playing the lotto is like going to church. The dedication and commitment with which they attend to it, in fact, beats the dedication of a lot of church-goers. But, let me ask you this: How many of your friends, family, colleagues, associates, and even of your enemies that you know, have ever won the lotto? I mean, REALLY won the lotto!! I didn't pass maths at first go in school, so help me out here. If one million people, including you, play the £1 lotto weekly (or whatever currency you spend in your country), the probability of your winning is 1 to 1 million. My friend, the harsh fact is that the odds are stacked against you. What do you think would be the probability of your ever winning enough to become as rich as you would like? Someone said "the chances of one winning the lotto is like experiencing a lightening shock twice in your lifetime". Highly unlikely!!! So, the odds of your becoming a "Lotto-Richie" are too high.

However, another option is to wait for your "rich uncle" (or aunty) to die. The good new news is, that person will die one day. The bad news is, you don't know when!! In fact, sometimes, your rich uncle is usually your "favourite" uncle. But, your "uncle" has his own "favourite" neice or nephew (not you!!). The surprisingly funny thing is that those aunties and uncles who are dying are those who are not quite "rich". Profoundly annoying is the fact that a lot of "rich uncles" usually leave their riches to their pet cat or dog. The generous ones might leave it to some distant relatives you've never even heard of. This can be so upsetting, some would probably feel like killing them all over again, or wishing them N.R.I.P. "NO rest in peace"... The fact of the matter is that "rich uncles" just don't exist.

The only viable option available then would be to earn it yourself. Now, you're probably wondering what I'm talking about. You already work very hard on your regular 9-5 job like every other person!!! That's very good, and it's certainly one option. But it's been proved over again that hard work alone has never made anyone rich and job security is a thing of the past. Besides lots of people work very hard, and are not rich. What are you trying to say, Yinka? Well, the world has become such a small place that lots of people in one country are making money in another country, some while they sleep. People in China are making American Dollars by using the internet. NO, not all are fraudsters! Yeah... I know what you're thinking. I can assure you of this, accidents can and do happen in the comfort of your home. If you're so afraid that someone might dupe you, stick to your 9-5 routine. Life itself is a big risk, and Oprah, Bill Gates, Richard Branson, John Maxwell and several others, all faced the fear of being duped, but still took the risk. So, what do I advice? Well, have you heard about the power of leveraging? What on earth is leveraging? Watch out for my article titled "How To Benefit From The Power of Leveraging".

In the meantime, try this link. https://116407.successuniversity.com/new

Re-defining "Rejection"

2008-03-18T00:45:00.004Z

I logged into a website recently and found an article written by one of my very best friends. Sukky, the author of "Flaming Hearts and Frozen Feet", enjoins us to approach rejection from a positive stand-point. By doing this, in my opinion, we are empowered to climb personal heights yet undiscovered, and soar beyond the reach and mediocrity of the "rejecter". Sukky Fagbohun is a university trained lawyer, now a Dance Teacher for over 12 years in her church in the USA, well respected Christian minister and teacher, and a Speaker at events.

Ladies and gentlemen, there is most certainly a positive "face" to rejection, IF, and only if, you allow yourself the liberty of finding it... Here's the full article (enjoy):

Rejection does not spell out failure, but it defines success. Rejection is a monster that we all will face sometime during the course of human existence.

Rejection comes with many faces, and it adopts various shapes. As a Christian writer and author, I am familiar with the pain, ridicle, and stigma of rejection.

Rejection itself is powerless until one empowers it by succumbing to its spell. A lot of people resign themselves to the fate that rejection throws their way. Many see rejection as a road block and not a detour, and a vast majority focus on its immediate negative impact, while they overlook its potential.

Passion and optimism, in my estimation are the best weapons neccessary to defeat rejection. A passionate man will never succumb to failure, nor permit himself to be bound by the voice of rejection. Passion has the ability to strip rejection of its potent vernom. The passionate man will not make rejection a destination, but the commencement of the journey.

I believe that rejection is life's way of handing us an eraser. It is an opportunity for us to make corrections rather than tear the book. It is an opportunity for a make over, the end result of which is always beauty, or marked improvement.

People face rejection at times, not because of incompetence, but because they are over - qualified. The problem in this case, then becomes that of the rejecter and not that of the rejected.

The best approach to rejection is never to let it define who or what you are. A winning approach is not to fight it, but passionately embrace it, and see it as a friend and not an enemy.

When we re-define rejection, we make a choice to not let it drown us in the river with other rejects, but rather, to keep afloat and swim, until we get to the banks of the river where success awaits.

The true reject, is one who fails to see its purpose..

Now, Answer The "Tell Us About Yourself" Interview Question

2008-02-28T19:03:00.004Z

I was sent a form for a networking event a while ago, where I was asked to introduce myself and what I do. Based on a quote by networking expert, Philip Kotler, some of the items on the form were: "I don't know who you are, I don't know what your company is, I don't know what your products are... in fact, I don't know anything about you". The form mentioned that each business will get three minutes to network.

This immediately reminded me of one of the models I use when preparing clients for job interviews, or developing a profile or a Curriculum Vitae for them. Here's what I wrote. My name is Yinka Dixon. I am a peak performance coach. I conduct motivational one-to-one and group sessions to stimulate, elevate and energise individuals and businesses so they can determine and achieve their goals. (.... Read the rest here) Once again, I said, my name is Yinka Dixon, your Peak Performance Coach and agent of positive change".

Interviewers are not wanting your full life history. When asked to introduce yourself, it is highly important to seize the moment. Let your audience know who you are, what you stand for, and what you do, and like they say "Keep it short, precise, and simple". This IS your "five minutes of fame"!! HOWEVER, analysts say, when given three minutes, speak for two. Stop before you are stopped, as they say, quit while the ovation is loudest. BUT more importantly, like a close friend, Dayo, always says "develop your elevator pitch"!!! An elevator pitch is your "tell me about yourself" response that even your grandmother will understand in the time it will take you to go up an elevator.

It takes a carefully constructed simple composition and sentence structure to develop an elevator pitch. To deliver a perfect elevator pitch, though, you need several hours of practice, perhaps in front of your mirror. Let me know how you get on. Good luck.

Your Personal Freedom Is At Your Fingertips

2008-02-20T11:44:00.004Z

HEY LOOK! Success is sweet when it comes, and gaining the freedom to work for "Me Ltd", although having numerous drawbacks, when it works, it has its rewards. You will be providing yourself with more personal freedom by choosing a home business, though you will have to be prepared to schedule personal and business events in order to create a healthy balance.

We all know that nobody ever got rich on a 9-5 routine. Job security is a thing of the past as well. Hard work never made anyone rich. You don't want to become a workaholic and leave your family lacking in attention. You also do not want to take an excessive amount of personal time and lose focus on business needs. This means there is the need for an improved "Work-Life" balance. If you're hiding behind a 9-5 job because you think you cannot make it on your own, you may wish to consider starting a home based business part-time.

Becoming a stickler for organization can be wise. Use a large calendar to organize events, meetings and so on. You will be able to schedule in time for everything and peace will reign over business and family life. Never be afraid to ask for help. The reason your employer is still in business is that they understand and utilise the power of leveraging. A Receptionist is not employed to do the job of an Accountant, just because he knows how to do Book-keeping.

Some people go to watch a match, and they leave in the middle. Imagine what will happen if the whole stadium of supporters had to leave the field before the match ended. Many people say "The Sky is the limit", but they believe it about other people, not themselves. If you are wondering where to start, perhaps you might require some training. Here is a link that will certainly open your eyes to much more than the sky. In fact, your 14 day trial period will open your eyes, and channel your energies, so you will begin to think and work smarter. Determine that when you start something, you will finish it. Your perception of many things will change positively, and you will be able to give yourself permission to succeed.

If you're still reading this, I believe you deserve to succeed. CLICK here for your link to your future success With so much information at your fingertips, things are about to turn around positively for you.

My Name is Yinka Dixon

2008-02-20T06:24:00.010Z

My name is Yinka Dixon. I am a peak performance coach. I conduct motivational one-to-one and group sessions to stimulate, elevate and energise individuals and businesses so they can determine and achieve their goals. By helping to raise the confidence levels of personal and business clients, I have become an agent of positive change.

I am a social entrepreneur, motivational speaker, IT & soft skills Trainer, Vocational Skills Assessor, business information consultant, writer, author of several articles, and a purveyor of positive change. I have a passion for assisting others to climb higher, fly faster and go where no other can go.

The name of my company is Dixon Peak Performance Coaching. Our aim is to inspire and empower our clients

* to raise the bars of personal standards
* to create a focus and a determination
* to set and achieve personal goals.

We want people to climb and to attain high levels of achievements and peak performance.

Through seminars, training sessions, personal coaching, personal mentoring, and workshops, we present programs in peak performance and Personal Development Strategies including

* Goal Setting and Goal Achieving
* High Relational Customer Services
* Peak Sales Performances
* Effective Communication Skills
* Personal Development and Re-Orientation
* Strategic Planning
* Internet Marketing
* Time Management and
* Self Motivation

As a lecturer and trainer for more than 24 years, I spent the last 12 years developing coaching and mentoring strategies for helping individuals and businesses to realise their dreams. I have been a Talk Show Host, Researcher, Presenter and Producer for two personally developed Radio programs. As a Business and Life Coach, I use the Power of Leveraging to inspire and empower individuals and businesses to achieve their peak performance. My company will work closely with you, your staff and your business to define your own meaning of "Success". We support the client, from where they are presently, all the way to their desired goal through education, motivation and action.

We have run, and have an ongoing series of Workshops on "Goal Setting and Goal Achieving", "Controlling Your Emotional State" and "Improving Your Work-Life Balance". Clients have included, professionals and people in business, single or married people with or without children, because everybody needs to find more time for themselves and for their loved ones. If you lay a secure foundation today, what you build on it, will guarantee a secure tomorrow. Information is powerful. You may wish to arm yourself for a secure future by clicking here today

Like they say "This is YOUR life!! It's not a rehearsal". Don't wait until you become overwhelmed, don't wait till your back is against the wall. There is a complimentary (free) session if you book today. Email, call or text. You owe it to yourself to move your own life forward. projectmanager@europe.com +353 87 237 2365 / +4475 1961 7933

Once again, my name is Yinka Dixon, your Peak Performance Coach and agent of positive change".

Could You Work From The Comfort of Your Home?

2008-02-15T18:15:00.006Z

Several people find themselves "suddenly" at home while other people "go to work". Remaining at home, for whatever reason, can be a traumatic experience if it was not an intentional decision.
In fact, it can be so traumatic that it affects every area of one's relationships - business and social.

The 21st century technology evolution has popularised the "Home Office" and "Home Working" with many ingenious people now working from home. Taking the leap into a home business opportunity can be a true-life changing event, as nearly every aspect of life can be changed for either the good or bad. When making a career change, you have to prepare yourself for its effects. Prior to making the decision to leave a career outside of the home for a home business, one should do some personal reflecting. Speak to family, and extensively review both a personal and business budget. By doing so you are making a plan for the unknown. You can think of it much like creating an emergency plan for yourself. If there is a fire, tornado or flood, you have to have materials to protect and care for yourself and your family. This is similar to making a plan for your needs when entering a home business. Before taking the plunge, it is important to know that there are areas of our lives which are linked together in some way, shape or form and they can all be affected by this change in career.

Family Support Is Crucial

For many people, our families are why we commute to a miserable job, or take on a night shift position and work ourselves silly, until we start to resemble zombies. We want to provide our families with a safe and attractive home, with clothing and food, medical and dental, as well as education needs. If you have a spouse and children this can easily become the driving force of your existence. Knowing that your family is prepared to become team players to help you achieve all of the above with a home business is a topic that must be discussed. Younger children should be made aware that mum or dad needs a quiet workspace and time to focus on the tasks of the business. They need reassurance that you will have time for them, for usual things like playing with them, trips to the shops or just a driving cruise. Conversation about a home business with your family allows everyone to be on the same page and to help keep the family in peace.

Every Business Needs Time To Grow

Have you figured out how much time your new business will require from you? What amount of time will be realistically expected of you to perform all of the duties involved in this career change to make it succeed? Will you have to work late evenings or weekends? Will your schedule conflict with your family life? You are the goose that will lay the golden egg in your family. You must plan your recreation time into your work time. If you don't, you will kill the goose, or send it to the medical centre too many times, and that will certainly affect your business and your plan to feed your family. If you take the time to honestly answer the above questions, it will help you, your family and your business. You may wish to let your family answer the same set of questions as well. Everyone should know what to expect as sudden changes or conflicts can simply make life unpleasant for all.

Savings Must Be In Focus

Businesses can take some time to get off the ground and begin to create a steady income, so savings of some kind should be adequate enough to care for your household needs for a minimum of three months. Once you are sure that your family's needs can be met safely, you can look over any remaining funds to see where you will use them and in what areas of business you wish to apply them. You may want to build a website, and order business cards, these are key points to allow focus on. Business cards are absolutely essential for new businesses, and you must never run out. You may need to speak to your bank or loan officer for monetary assistance. With banks, an overdraft is always better than a loan because there are no charges attached once they are agreed. If what you require is a small loan, then ask for an overdraft, over a long period, like one year. If you are prepared you have a higher rate of success for your business.

If you are thinking of home business, you will find useful resourses here. Sign up, and listen several times to the trainers. Make use of your special offers, and your ideas will begin to flow like a stream. Successful people were not born so. That popular book said "THINK and Grow Rich". Your thinking will be sharpened when you log into the link. You might even surprise yourself. Here's to your success!!! www.116407.successuniversity.com/specialoffer

Acquire the right character for success..

2008-02-15T02:37:00.004Z

Acquire the right character for success..
Here are seven character traits of successful people.

1. They are hard working.

Many people look at successful people with envy. What they know about these people is what is shown on television, in magazines, and on radio. They don’t see it when these people have to deal with sleepless nights while others choose to party. Successful people wake up early, sleep late, and work themselves to the bone in between those hours. Some look at them as if they have no right to enjoy “the good life”. There is no such thing as easy money. Success takes hard work and it takes people who are willing to do it.

2. They are honest.

Some people will do anything to be successful. Others will go as far as putting others down, trying to destroy their reputation or credibility in order to make ace success. People myopic in view may buy into such lies and trickery. But, like they say, one can fool some people some of the time, but can’t fool all the people all of the time. Dishonest traits and characteristics always shine through eventually, because like they say, a leopard cannot change its spots. Those who are successful long term are the honest ones. Dishonest people may get the first sale, but honest people will eventually get all the rest!

3. They persevere.

Many people have dreams they never pursued because they encountered a drawback. How many success stories will go untold because they never happened? And all because someone quit. Someone once said “the battle is not for the swift”, but he certainly did not mean “roll over and play dead”. Successful people always outlast everybody else, because they never give up. They encounter rejection, endure abuse, and they overlook the smallness of narrow-minded people who treat them with disrespect and disdain, but they aim for the “last laugh syndrome”. They look beyond other people’s egocentric natures and adopt the NikeÔ slogan “Just Do It”!

4. They are friendly.

It is alright to be friendly, and certainly good to care about other people‘s welfare. Its true that some people’s motive in “friendship” is only for what they can gain, or the “connections” they can make through you. Many people have given up on making friends because, while they were trying to be nice and friendly, someone with personal internal pressure made a nasty undercutting comment. Some have encountered those who feel its alright to use others as foot-mats. Have you noticed that most truly successful people are non-pretentious, friendly and people oriented? This endears them to many others and enables them to lead those others to accomplish the task at hand. Be sure of this one fact, water always finds its level. There is also a difference between being friendly and making friends. Do not stop being friendly to people just because you encountered a minority who are struggling with unresolved internal issues. Friendliness, not lip service, always pays better dividends in the end.

5. They are life-long learners.

Successful people are people who stretch themselves and grow continually, learning from all areas of life, including from their mistakes. Mistakes can be quite costly, but whatever lesson one learns from them while one remains alive must be taken on board. One must always learn from the past. Successful people tell themselves “its all in the past”, but they always know what those things are. While you continue to move forward, you must remember the past mistakes. The reason is self-improvement. Some people are blissfully ignorant of their past mistakes, and keep making the same ones over again. The same can be applied to relationships as to business. If you don’t know where you’re coming from, you may never know where you wish to be or not, and you certainly cannot measure progress,

6. They over-deliver.

The old statement of under-promise and over-deliver became famous because it made a lot of people successful, including the richest man in the world today - Bill Gates. Some people forget the power of words, while other people’s words have no value. It is always better to control your temper and your tongue. Some people say things they don’t mean while they are upset. The old saying “a gentleman’s word is his bond” means the same as “you are ensnared by your words”. Never mind those who read ulterior motives into everything you say, just focus on those who appreciate you for your worth, and always keep your promises, or don’t make them. Let your answers be simply “yes”, “no”, or “perhaps/maybe”. People cannot see your heart, they can only judge what you say.

7. They seek solutions in the face of problems.

Successful people do not see problems, they see challenges. Problems are opportunities to do the impossible, not just complain. When you try your best at something and seem to fail, you have just discovered one way how not to do it. Don’t hang around people who want to remind you of your failure. Failure always presents another opportunity to try again. Failure is your second change to discover a more intelligent solution. Successful people are the ones who find solutions.

Reflection

Now, what is your own reason for not being successful? We were all born with no rigid character traits. Every character trait we exhibit was learned on our journey to where we are today. Do a self-search audit, and determine if you wish to be successful. If so, do you have these character traits? If not, replace a negative character with one of these, and you are well on your way to success. Don’t worry if success seems slow coming, remember to persevere, and always think the best of yourself. The world only recognises people who have “broken-through” in their chosen pursuits. Give yourself a chance, and become “the celebrated“.

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It's Not Too Late To Set Goals For This Year

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Last year, you attended so many seminars, workshops and lectures on “How To Make Money From Your Chair”, “6 Ways To Manage Your Time”, 21 Reasons Why You Must Make Progress”. At the end of the year, you sat yourself down, got yourself a cup of your favourite beverage, and advised yourself that “this year, you must make progress, you must manage your time better, and you must make money!!”

It’s that time of the year again, and you’re wondering how time has gone again!, You still have not yet set goals for this year. You have no targets set, and you feel that it’s too late. Yes, January is ending again, but it’s not too late to make plans, to set goals. My good friend and mentor, Richie johnson, FRSA, always says “You must be willing to do today what other people will not do in order to have tomorrow what they will not have”. Someone once said “Madness is doing something the same way you’ve been doing it for a while, but expecting a different result”. you’ve got to try it a different way to get a different result.

IF you have not yet set your goals for this year, all you have to do is get yourself a jotter or notepad now, get a pen or pencil that won’t let you down, get yourself another cup of your favourite beverage again. Find a comfortable seat, and give yourself a break!!! You are probably thinking you need a lot of time. Not so. It’s been proved time and again, that those who succeed, set themselves achievable incremental goals. If 1hour is difficult to swing, a 30 minute plan may work better for you. Why not set yourself a goal which you can achieve within the next 30 minutes? You may just surprise yourself. I have done it and it works!!

Oh, wondering how to start? Why not try these starters: “In the next 30 minutes, I will call…., I must do…., I have to have….” Whatever you’ve been putting off for a while, can go into the next 30 minutes. Then make another plan for the next 30 minutes. So what are you waiting for? Start now.