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I attended a meeting that finished late few nights ago. It was a wet, windy and cold night. I ran straight into the red Mercedes Benz to warmth. For a second, I remembered that this car is a gift from a woman! And she wanted nothing in return for it. Then I remembered the Mitsubishi I had been given in 2009. A gift from a man! He wanted nothing in return for it. Then I remembered the Ford Escort I was given in 2000. That also was a gift. As I sat still for those few seconds, I remembered the gift of a Ford Granada, given to me in 2002, by a man who also asked for nothing. I later gave that car to a lady, and wanted nothing from her. As I drove off, I began to wonder. I wondered about all those people who say that it is impossible for a man to give gifts without wanting anything in return. Surely, if they think that men give gifts because they want sex, they must also think that women who give gifts to other women must be lesbians. Why must gifts be attached to sex or sexualit...

  Answering the Question When Does The Pain End? by Yinka Dixon-Oludaiye When does the pain end was a question posed by a friend to Yetunde Daramola in 2010.  She, in turn asked friends and family on Facebook " When Does the Pain End? ".  I attempted a response by giving the response below. When does the pain end?  How long does it take for the hurt to heal?  How do people deal with their hurt?  There is no rule book to measure the end of pain or grief.  There is no yardstick to determine how long before hurt heals. As we are all different,  we are bound to handle things in different ways. The same with pain, hurt and grief. Some heal later, some heal sooner.  It's not as easy as A.B.C., neither is it as clear as daylight how or when someone who is hurting will heal. Only time does that.  What helps people heal is the presence of caring, dedicated friends, who remain steadfast to ensure that their friend will not go "down".  Going d...

  When Does the pain end? by Yetunde Daramola (Odebiyi) I have just come in from one of my many rounds to the supermarket. While waiting at the checkout, an old friend walked up to me. We exchanged pleasantries and then she asked after an old neighbour of mine. I replied saying she had left the neighbourhood following a breakdown of her marriage.  The friend then said to me, “The same thing happened to me and I am still hurting.” I told her that time would heal her. She said she wanted the healing to be tomorrow.  She still appeared deeply hurt and I realise that hurt is spreading around fast. I encouraged her still, saying: “Don’t worry; this time shall pass.” I bet my friend did not really want to hear that. She wanted her pain to just go away. Only a peek into the future to know exactly when the pain would end could have consoled her a bit.  Back to my neighbour who left... Her husband had previously told me that he had seen so many separated or divorced women cop...

Spending Time With Friends and Family is Priceless There is a lot to be said about spending time with family. Time is often said to be a rare commodity, and is to be valued. The highlight of my evening is that I went for a meal last night. It was not planned, but was, rather, impromptu. My cousin had arrived from USA since last Thursday, and was bound to return on an early flight tomorrow, Wednesday. She was staying with my cousin from Ireland who is her sister, and cousin from Ireland’s family, which is about an hour away from me. I remember that we had talked about it for while, before cousin from USA actually arrived for this trip, and had planned a few things in advance.    Time does tend to creep in quickly on you, leaving you wondering where it disappeared to in the end. Sunday was meant to be our first outing, but other events sort of overtook this plan. Things always seem to have a way of hijacking your time, if one is not careful. Sunday went by, and alt...

Today, I just don’t feel like doing anything Have you ever had any days like this.? These would be days when you wake up feeling like doing absolutely nothing. It won’t be because you had nothing to do. You probably have a diary overflowing with things you need to do in one day that would take a month to complete. However, today, you simply chose to be without an agenda. I guess you are not alone. Many people may not say so, but they surely do feel the same way. I was once listening to popular “Lazy Song” performed by Bruno Mars. Listen to Bruno Mars by clicking the link below. I took the liberty of copying the lyrics to the first few words: Bruno Mars – The Lazy Song (Official Video) – Youtube Today I don’t feel like doing anything; I just wanna lay in my bed. Don’t feel like picking up my phone, so leave a message at the tone. ‘Cause today, I swear, I’m not doing anything. I’m gonna kick my feet up; then stare at the fan. Then he goes on to talk about “T...

The Feelings of Grief in Divorce.   Many people remain in dead marriages using the children as excuse for a disjointed relationship in which the battle lines are drawn fiercely and ferociously. To say the least, it is unfair on the children for parents to bring them up in war zones, or to use them as pawns during bitter long drawn out exchanges of verbal and, sometimes physical fire power. Once the love for the children becomes the priority, sometimes, divorce becomes inevitable. The realization of this ushers in a lot of grief. When asked to describe what people feel when going through the process of divorce, some would call it a “deep sadness”, while some call it a “heavy sorrow”. Whichever way it is described, grief is unbearable, monumental, devastating, and a sometimes wearying process. Grief is usually caused by a loss of some sort, (usually of someone loved), especially in the case of divorce, relationship break-up, or death. Sometimes, grief may be caused b...

Successful screening of 'ÌMÁLÀ' (The triumph of Wisdom) in Ireland by Yinka Dixon-Oludiaiye Publisher: BECKY CEO: Corporate Phases The success story called 'ÌMÁLÀ' (The triumph of Wisdom) continues to be told. All roads led to the Plaza Hotel in Dublin, Ireland’s, Tyrellstown, on Friday 26th November, where the Movie premier was screened in Ireland for the first time. The movie screening which was presented by Matrix Entertainment Ltd and Ddymensions, saw several UK and Nigerian based Entertainment and Media personalities reunite with their Ireland based friends. After the screening, a question and answer session allowed for audience interaction and essential feedback for the benefit of the actors and directors. There was an initial photo call of Nollywood actors with business people and some fans. ÌMÁLÀ has a simple but fantastic plot, creatively contrived, and deliberately woven into many real life complexities by the story’s author and Producer,...